Hey mama. I see you. You don't seem like yourself. You're not motivated to do the things you usually enjoy. Your house is a wreck, but you can't find an ounce of energy to clean. You haven't showered in about 3 days. Dinners have been whatever you can find in the fridge. And sex life? What's that??

So I have a question.

Are you in a funk?  If you answered yes, I feel ya.  I just got out of a major one.  Being a work from home parent to an eight month old is AMAZING.  BUT.  It is also isolating and I sometimes feel like I am living the same exact day over and over again.

Once I get in a funk, it is really hard for me to get out.  You see, I struggle with anxiety pretty regularly – thank you lawdddd for my oils helping me manage it all! (Check out what I use to survive motherhood, here). But, for real...adding in postpartum hormones – I don’t think there is enough Valor oil in the world to get me out of my funk sometimes.

And you know what, THAT IS OKAY! It is totally okay to be dealing with anxiety, depression, mood swings, body image issues, everything and anything right now.  You are a completely different person when you become a parent.  Trying to figure it all out is messy and hard.  But most importantly it’s NORMAL.

SO👏FREAKING👏NORMAL👏

Give yourself permission to feel what you are feeling and ask for help if you need it.

Self-care and taking breaks are essential to being a happy and healthy parent.  Remember – you can’t pour form an empty cup. 

Now.  I’m not telling you it’s okay to use the challenges you are facing as a crutch.  Because, let’s be real, we still need to get shit done.  But if you don’t address your needs, it is going to become even harder to get out of a funk.  

My tip for you: Each day, write down 5 non-negotiable. Five things that are going to be your focus before anything else. My 5 are usually shower, clean up the kitchen, journal, have a coffee, and spend time with my daughter without my phone. Everything else I get done that day is extra. This helps shift your mindset from feeling in a funk because you got nothing done, to feeling accomplished. Focus on those 5 first. Everything else you get done is a bonus.

And schedule breaks and self-care in advance, girl.  Make time for YOU.  Use your oils. Meditate. Take a bath. Know that it is okay to feel the things you are feeling.  Make yourself a priority.  Make your feelings a priority.  Know you aren’t alone and what you are feeling is normal.  Motherhood is messy, but it's beautiful. You’ve got this, mama!

xo, Kiera